Really not sure how this blog is going to turn out as I am going to write this on the fly and even where or when this blog will end so please forgive me for flipping thoughts from one point to another. I will write as I see a connection and perspective to what I am blogging and thinking about at that time. (I hope it’s not too confusing)

Human beings are such complex creatures and I could talk about us forever and no doubt I will, this blog may never end as I am always amazed at people and how they think , behave and develop. The craziest thing is that just as you think you have seen it all a curve ball comes and smacks you right on the head and you learn some more about human beings and how they respond. I guess this is called evolution! Long may this continue to happen.
I think on the surface it looks really easy to be a human being and if I was an alien looking down on earth at first glance id probably think how cool it is to be a human in comparison to a fish or bird or other animal. More importantly I think if I was a fish, chicken or other animal id think I got the short straw but then no matter where you are the grass always looks better on the other side. I like the thought of being a bird or fish until I realised that I’d probably end up on a plate or be another animal’s dinner.
I am a bit of people watcher and always have been since the earliest days I can remember when I was a child I think it was my way to try to work out why adults are so difficult to understand and how sometimes they react and make weird choices and definitely behave in the most oddest of ways.
As a child you can do something that in your child’s mind seems perfectly logical and correct and yet you will get a good telling off from your parents and then on the other hand you will do something or behave in such a way that you are expecting the worst from your parents and you will get lots of love and praise.
How complicated is that for starters. Yet to a child all things appear the same just adventuring and learning. As adults we would describe these as opportunities and would think about exploiting them, it isn’t long before we have these conditioned and shaped up by our education system of conforming and parents.
Although to my mind which is based on I being a child all things appeared as an opportunity the thing that told me if it was right or wrong was dependent on the emotional state of the adult and in which way a response was given back to me. Mostly I would say it was definitely not proportionate or consistent.
We can quickly see as a child it’s a challenge to be a human being and that’s even before we have embarked on the issues of relationships with the nuclear and extended family, friends, social and personal relationships aspects of being a human being. Let’s not forget we then have to try to work out the ” I” question and sense of belonging , sense of purpose questions with finding answers to questions like who I’m “I”? And Where or does god play a part in my life? This leads to us having to answer questions like freedom of choice, being good or bad and dare I say taking responsibility for our own lives and actions and not blaming society and others, which is a chapter in itself.
As children our parents lie to us as they force their beliefs on us which are based on lies (to protect us mostly and to give us an element of happiness), an example is father Christmas as children we are told he exists, we are told tooth fairies exist. So we look to underpin these beliefs, through seeing the gifts and finding the money that is placed under our pillow only later to find out it is not true. So we have to ask ourselves as adults how many of our beliefs are false.
Given that most of us hold untrue beliefs we can see why stress is now a major cause of sickness in the work place. I once read an article about a little girl at school in an art lesson and the teacher asked the class to draw and paint anything they like. As the teacher walked around the class room she stopped and asked the little girl what had she painted the little girl said “god” the teacher responded and said to the little girl we don’t know what “god” looks like. The little girl said we do now. This type of schooling represses innovation and creativity and the ability to think for ourselves. Perhaps some of us as human beings conform so much through external influences that we lose the real us and become what others want us to be.
Even from a work perspective we have to have the right look and fit and that’s before the company has decided that you have the right experience and skill sets. Things are definitely going to be getting tougher with social networks like Face book, Ecademy, LinkedIn – soon we will see that having the right people in your network will be commensurate with the quality of life you have. What is very worrying is automatic deselection from and isolation in society based on your web profiles. This may even be here now, the truth is it mostly likely is.
We really do have a very challenging start to life, with what is true, and what is false, we have learned ours parents values and without really knowing it we have had our emotional states and reactions influenced and shaped by people that we have come in to contact with daily and the huge amount of media we are exposed to.
It is not really difficult to understand why our society is a messed up and how for us as individuals how difficult it is to grasp and learn how to work through the debris and challenges of our human existence!
Consider this if our happiness is shaped by all the things we are exposed to and the things I have mentioned in this blog we have not got it easy to be human being at all. The problem is we learn our behavior in auto pilot and most of us then go in to auto pilot in our interaction with others and because of this we become unaware of our own behavior and its impact on other people. This causes us conflicts which we have to learn to overcome in order to move forward or we end up being in an institution of some sort or have a complete emotional breakdown.
Something I want to share with you is when I was in India recently and I saw some very poor people from a material perspective and yet they looked some of the happiest people id seen for a long time. It goes to show that as a human being where and what you anchor or tie your emotions too is a very important question and for many of us we do this trying to or in seeking happiness. On happiness very few of us take in to account the true perspective and value of our current life situation , personal beliefs , life values, and take in to account that our self perception could be flawed. Therefore if we compared our life to others who were born in the wrong place , with bad parents or with a health issue we may appreciate that we are already in heaven.
Our mind is an incredible piece of natures design, yet it can destroy us as individuals in a moment, It is so important we control how we talk to ourselves as a child and as we are grown ups. Our eyes physically see only a small part of what is reality the rest is filled in by the brain which may not be as it really is. So we have the challenge of managing not only what others tell us about ourselves and our world but what we tell ourselves in words while we work, rest and play. If there is one thing we should all do and that is shut our minds voice off when it tells us negative things.
The reality is being human is a bit of a lottery from a learning and living perspective because if you were born as a child in to a wealthy country or in to a royal family or in a wealthy family you may have a head start (depending on nature not disadvantaging you) but this does not mean or guarantee us being happy (another challenge of being human) and as each generation comes along for children being born now in this day and age we now have the challenges of the digital age and it is getting faster and more complicated by the hour to live through.
You could argue that it should be easy with technology but the reality is every time we simplify something to save pressure and time we add something in to that time slot so we can keep doing more. I believe we will see very soon information sickness as common cause of most reported stress. People will be suffering from a form of social network related sickness because of reasons like too many people have left their network or a friend has upset them on face book, this is only around the corner.
It will not be long before we see people who completely shut down due to the amount of things we cram in to time , humans have to manage and cope with a large amount of information that comes to us via our TVs, Phones, computers, tablets and other gadgets. We are shaped continually by media, advertisements selling a life style we aspire to have that most of us will struggle to reach.
I have only covered just the surface. I will continue this blog in more details as soon as I can make time. So please give yourself a break from life and celebrate and appreciate all the challenges we have had to overcome in becoming us and in our efforts to become a fully fledged human being.
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Michael Butler
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